the wear on the front is a known issue at Bridgestone. The only solution they have is to raise the pressure and make sure it is really as high as 2.5 bar. Has to do with several things, not only riding-style. I think it also has to do with the BT being a Tubeless tire that gets mounted with a tube in our Laverda cases. This results in friction between the tube and the tire and causes the tire to heat up more than it is designed for. Just my assumption, not a technically qualified research, please.
The Metzelers I rode (ME33/55/99) were all shit against the BT in almost any regard. They warm up longer (and are very slippery when cold...), cool down faster (a bit of rain is enough to make them cool down to a serious point...), deliver less grip in dry and - mainly - in wet (here to a very, very dangerous point; had 3 crashes caused by slipping Metzelers!). The only advantage they offer is a higher millage, which is bought by a stiffer rubber mix, which results in the points above (less grip, less handling, shit in wet).
I have seen many trying other tires, just to see them coming back to BT45, as handling and grip in dry and wet is superior to any other tire they tried. They are used even as race-tires in many classic events, also as wet tires in wet-races. Guess why...
The only one sticking to Avons i know is my buddy with the 1000SFC, but he has never tried anything different than the Avons and he is a real mile-cruncher; both Lavis he has have over 100.000km and the BMW is getting close to that, too...
So - it all depends on what you expect from the tire. If you go for a sportive handling and don't do a lot of miles per year, the BT is your choice. If you look for a long lasting tire, look elsewhere. But do yourself a favor and never use Metzelers until they REALLY come up with something new.
BTW: not that I trust to much the Magazin MOTORRAD and their "independent" tests and reports (wonder why BMW always wins ANY competition...), but also other magazines in Germany do tire tests every year and the BT45 wins any competition there. Must be for a good reason, no?
that said, I absolutely do not want to underestimate what Cosi experienced. it is true and a known issue, but it really depends on tire pressure and what you expect from the tire. I have seen many Laverdas recently on the Forum meeting, all having the BT45 and except one, none had that wear pattern.
HTH